We have been in the adult dating scene for more than 40 years between us, and we have noticed that as the number of people in the dating scene has been increasing, so has the bad bahaviour.
Some of it is because people just do not know how to behave in a strange environment, so we have created a few pages of information to help you.
Please respond to all e-mails you receive from respondents.
Most of them will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them.
It does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. I know that I for one check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping that someone has written back to me.
If you are an escort, your ad will be deleted. We do not carry any ads where a person charges money for meeting or for sex.
Always be polite.
Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad.
Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.
If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their profile).
Keep the language clean, match your response to the ad. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.
If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.
Check carefully that you match the advertisers requirements, and that they meet yours. If you are contacting a couple check that they are looking for someone of your sex. Sometimes only one of the people in a couple is bisexual, so check that they are looking for a person of your sex before writing.